~*Absolutely Right*~

Bila berlaku krisis rumah tangga di mana si isteri dipersalahkan seperti :

Tak jaga kecantikan

Masak tak sedap

Tak pandai masak

Bersepah malas mengemas

Asyik nak balik rumah dia je

Badan membesar jadi gemuk tak cantik

Pemalas

Malah kadang2 ada yg faktornya si Isteri curang...

Pernahkah kamu terfikikir wahai lelaki sepanjang usia perkahwinan kamu itu...

Adakah kamu menjaga isteri kamu sebaik mungkin

Makan pakaianya kamu berikan secukupnya tak?

Keinginan seksual isterimu kamu puaskan ke tak?

Jika tak pernahkah kamu beruaha untuk berubat dsbg?

Bila dia perlukan teman berbual kamu ada disisi tak?

Masa dia lahirkan anak kamu temankan dia kat hospital tak?

Kamu azan dan qamat anak2 yg dia lahirkan tak?

Kamu berjaga malam buatkan susu tak masa baby tu menangis malam2 masa dia dlm pantang tak?

Kamu imamkan solat berjemaah dengan dia tak?

Kamu kejut dia solat tahajud malam2 tak?

Kamu bawak dia ke masjid dengar majls ilmu tak?

Kamu bawak dia ke masjid solat tarawikh bulan puasa sama2 tak?

Kamu bawak dia pergi umrah dan haji tak?

Kamu ajak dia sama2 bersedekah bantu orang miskin tak?

Kamu isi dada isteri kamu dengan iman dan taqwa tak?

Kamu bagi duit tak setakat yg kamu manpu? Ke kamu mengepow duit isteri kamu?

Jika jawapannya ialah YA untuk semua permasalahan di atas maka jangan salahkan PEREMPUAN... they deserve to be happy and live happily with someone else and NOT with you !

Tapi jika kau dah berikan segala2nya diatas dan dia masih macam celaka... maka bersabarlah kerana neraka bagi perempuan yang tidak bersyukur... !

Muhasabah dirilah dulu sebelum nak tengok keburukan orang menyalahkan orang... dan bersabarlah kerana SABAR itu sangat sweeet...

Ikhlas dari:

YM Raja Shamri

@Padang Luas Jerteh

Terengganu

~*Home Wrecker*~

There is this one guy who gets married to his first wife but in doing so he had hurt someone very badly from his past. Though people see him as happily married, he can’t stop himself from feeling guilty and in the end decided to marry the woman from his past. They got married. They are happy but of course the 1st wife is very unhappy.

The first wife did a lot of things; hurtful yet understandable things to the second wife but things get worst. She even started to conspire with the mother in law so as to pressure the husband to divorce the second wife. And came the day the husband can no longer take the pressure. He nearly succumbs to the pressure but Allah is great. The second wife is pregnant with their first child, leaving the husband yet again dumbfounded not knowing what to do. He loves his mother very much but divorcing a pregnant wife even he could not do that.

But the pressure is so tremendous and thus the husband comes with a plan where he deceived the first wife and his own mother that he has divorced the second wife. And thus they rejoice at their winnings. Little did they know they were cheated.

But somehow the plan that the husband thought was brilliant was the one plan that stops him from being able to perform his responsibility to his 2nd wife being pregnant and left alone. The second wife suffers a complicated pregnancy. She bled profusely for a month due to stress. Her body somehow is not ready for the pregnancy and produce less hormone. She had to be on hormone replacement therapy and due to her condition she can no longer work and she lost her job even in that situation when the 1st wife and the mother in law knew that the divorce was a scam, they put more pressure to destroy the marriage.

Their reason was that the second wife is a home wrecker even though the second wife had never really pushed for the husband to divorce the 1st wife. They were so into the idea that the 2nd wife is in the wrong that they never take a step back and look at what they are really doing. Wrecking the marriage of that 2nd wife and ensuring that the baby will have no father.

The second wife is now only 3 months pregnant but she is already planning her divorce and how to survive as a single mom, planning of birthing the child alone without the support of her dear husband. She said all along for nearly 2 months she knows she is pregnant. She has gone through her pregnancy alone. Her husband failed to be there for her because he prioritized his family more and it got me thinking. Isn't she his family as well? isn't the child that she carries in her womb, his child? his blood? how can a person be that selfish?

Man out there! There is nothing wrong with polygamy but do remember that it comes with string attached; responsibilities towards the wives, should not be neglected and the child's well being should be taken care off.

Divorcing your wife on the account of fulfilling your mother's wish is clearly against what our religion preach. If u do not have enough knowledge then seek for it but do not ever make a decision only based on what other people tell u to do.

Rasulullah s.a.w. is the best to his wives and yet at the same time is the one who gives utmost importance in being kind to the parents.

Thus husbands out there who practices polygamy, please be more considerate to the feelings of your wife. Do not abandon them. You are their protector thus step up and be one and at the same time be kind to your mothers. Outline the boundaries that should not be crossed because the love to a mother is definitely different than a love to the wives. Be firm and resume your role as the leader of your family.

And those who are a parent, remember the boundaries that we have in being a parent. Do not destroy the happiness of our child for our happiness. We are not the one living their life. Guide them to the right path and then let go. Let them write their own story.

- Source: Fb Diyana Izyan -